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Question: Young Insatiable Bull For Cuckold Couple

Dear Lounge Advice,

What are general tips and best practices for single M seeking to find cuckold situations in real life?

I've only had a few over the years and would like to make this happen more often!

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),


Step one….your profile needs a lead photo.
No one is going to look at your profile if you don't have a lead photo featured on your account.

Your profile is not certified real.
For privacy and personal security reasons many of our members simply will not engage in a conversion with a profile that has no lead photo and is not certified with the real seal certification.

Once you get an enticing lead photo up and your account certified try posting in the booty call area…there are always couples looking to spice things up…


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Question: Attractive Couple

Dear Lounge Advice,

I am looking for an erotic massage for my wife, we did one of those several years ago and it was a big hit for my wife. I am trying to surprise her with a massage. Do you know of anyone that would be in swinging that gives such a massage?

Thank You!!

Dreesano

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

Try checking our Classifieds area for massage options in your area.

You could also post your query in one of our forum areas like "Health and Fitness", "Off Topic" or "Members Helping Members " to see if other LL members in your general area respond with some suggestions for a "lifestyle" friendly masseuse.



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Question: SEXY NYC TRY-SEXUAL

Dear Lounge Advice,

I have recently been expressing my sexual desires to my wife. They always happen in the heat of the moment. I have tried asking for a threesome with another woman, and got very little response. In an effort to explore her boundaries , I suggested a threesome with another male where I would be a spectator, or an active participant. She gets arroused. However, afterwards she never mentions it again. How can I move this beyond dirty talk?

Looking for more.



Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

Everyone has different comfort levels for expressing & discussing their private desires.

If you are waiting for her to bring this up again after the "after glow" has expired and that is not happening then you may need to be more direct in your approach in discussing this topic.

My best advice would be to try talk about this outside of a sexual moment and see what kind of traction the conversation gets.

You both definitely need to be on the same page before you start experimenting on playing out each others fantasies with other lifestyle partners.

Attending a "Lifestyle/Swing" friendly event in your area is a perfect environment to explore and tempt your fantasies together.

Watching other people mingle & flirt and touch each other can be a HUGE turn on for both of you.
It might also give you both the opportunity to join in on some private voyeur of other peeps having sex or trying some "soft swing" during the event or at an open "after party" get together…and there are ALWAYS open "after parties"…or you could start your own ;);)

Explore each other verbally throughout the event…"would you like to try that"…or "It would really turn me on to see you with that person/couple"…you get the idea.

The important thing is to not put too much pressure on this…let things unfold naturally over time with a little light naughty coaxing…










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Question: SEXY NYC TRY-SEXUAL

Dear Lounge Advice,

I am heading to Miami in February. My wife is pretty Vanilla, but has expressed an interest in voyerism. She gets hot thinking about us fucking while others watch. Any suggestions as to clubs, and how we set boundaries?

I would like this potential experience to lead to more uninhibited ones, with more participants.

Any thoughts on how I should proceed?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Check out our Events section on our Home page
for the dates you are traveling to Florida and
see if there are any parties or events being held close to the area you will be staying.
There is also a Clubs link that you can review to locate "lifestyle" friendly Clubs & parties that occur regularly.

IMHO attending an event or two together is the best way to get your feet wet in the swinging lifestyle.

Talk together upfront before you both attend anything, set up your "boundaries& comfort zones" in advance and both of you be on the same page prior to walking in…if you need any at all.

Be "upfront" to people & couples that you meet about why you are there and what your fantasy is.
That will be a good "ice breaker" and set the tone for the evening well in advance of any playtime.
There are lots of couples who get their feet wet in the lifestyle by having sex together while others watch and or visa versa….you watching them.

Good luck & have fun !




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Question: Playfulmaleseekingattractivefemaleorcouplef

Dear Lounge Advice I would like to get some action going. Want to try out meeting people in person and attending an event if any are going on now. I am new to all of this and very anxious to see live sex and to participate in it. Tell me how I can speed things up a little.

Thanks

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Profiles that contain no photos and a very vague description get little to no press.

I suggest that you add some sexy photos & videos to your profile and get your account certified "real" with the real seal certification.
For privacy and security reasons many of our seasoned members simply will not interact or respond to profiles that are not certified and have not a single photo.

The more you participate on the site in areas like the forums, groups,contests ,etc…the more exposure your profile will get with other members.

Check out the "Travel & Parties" of the forum and try to attend an event in your area.
Attending parties or events is an excellent way to introduce yourself and meet some members "fact to face" to make an impression.

Good luck. Get those photos posted :-)


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Question: Singlelooking

Dear Lounge Advice, Used to have a very fun lifestyle relationship with my wife of 30 years. Went from that to absolutely nothing. Sex twice in the last 10 months. I am completely demoralized and my confidence is shot WTF. my loyalty is wearing then. She can't talk about anything, she works a lot so I can't imagine an affair, I guess anything is possible, but there is never enough time.

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

I think you just answered your own question.

If you two are not taking the time to communicate with each other because there is "never enough time" and try to express where you are both at individually and with each other…nothing is ever going to change or improve.

If you don't open the communication lines and figure out where you both stand you will both just end up running in circles around each other avoiding dealing with your issues.

I always suggest that being bold, direct and brutally honest with your partner or wife is the best way to handle personal issues.

Lay out all of the cards on the table first…see how she responds.

If that fails you can always seek counseling for both of you to attend or even just for yourself if you feel it is needed to continue your marriage and stay stable and happy.






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Question: Funcouplelookingtomakenewfriends

Looking to book a sex vacation in Korea or Japan. Cant seem to find any sites that offer that. Anyone have any ideas?

Thanks

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

I'm not sure what you mean by "sex vacation"….so I'll assume you are looking for "swinger/lifestyle friendly" options.

Try contacting LLTRAVEL on the site.
They are the official travel agents for LL and have contacts internationally.

They may be able to recommend or help you book a trip to some "lifestyle friendly" locations and destinations for you in the areas you are traveling to.




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Question: I nominate myself

Dear Lounge Advice,
Are there foods and or supplements that can increase a mans semen load size?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Here are some tips to ponderbut there is no "Miracle Pill" to create larger ejaculation volume.


- Drink plenty of fluids( NO SODA) and keep the heat away. More

- Avoid wearing tight underwear or sitting with your legs crossed.

-Abstain from orgasm for 1 to 2 days.

- Make changes to your diet and consider using supplements.
Red beans
Wild blueberries, cranberries, and blackberries
Coconut water
Prunes
Apples (Red Delicious, Granny Smith, Gala)
Artichokes<12>

Try taking certain amino acids.
Amino acids are the building blocks of proteins. These organic compounds, taken regularly, are reputed to boost levels of silly string.<9> Scientists believe that sperm benefit from amino acids because certain amino acids are found in large quantities in the heads of sperm. Look out for the following amino acids to boost your ejaculate:
L-Arginine
L-Lysine
L-Carnitine

- Make healthy lifestyle choices, such as exercising more and not smoking.

All you can do is try some or all of these suggestions as a part of your daily life balance.
Part-time or occasional use will most certainly not make any difference.



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Question: HedonistCoupleSeekBi-&GayWomenforWife

Dear Lounge Advice,
My wife is truly bisexual, and met another young woman who is also, so much so that they first time they played, it lasted over four hours and they each came so many times that before ending the evening, they had already set another play date for less than a week later. The problem is, the other woman has a distinct body odor that breaks my wife's focus, so much that she finds it a challenge to go down on, or even suck the nipples of the other woman. She very much wants to continue to play with her friend, but the odor is presenting a challenge to doing so. We would welcome any advice you can provide to remedy this situation. Just FYI, we already addressed a similar issue with this woman, she used aloe vera based lotion everywhere, including her nipples and genitals, and we as tactfully as possible asked her not to, and she indicated that she would refrain from using it on those areas, so we're a little nervous about addressing this issue now.
Any suggestions would be very much appreciated, as my wife really loves this woman, and she loves my wife, so I am desperate to figure out how to solve this new concern.
Thanks,


Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Well.BO/Body Odor issues are a tricky subject.

You are either going to have to "deal" with it or call it a "deal breaker"IMHO.

If you are uncomfortable talking to this person again about this issue and it is not going to be a long term fling I would call it a "deal breaker" and call it quits.

Since you already voiced concerns over the "Aloe Vera" lotion this person uses then it sounds like you don't have any issues voicing your opinions.

Hell you could even "fib" a bit and claim it is an allergy hyper sensitivity issue.

I would suggest that you be gently honest with this person and let them know the situation.
Maybe suggest "bathing" and a "no perfumes/lotion" policy prior to play dates/playtime.or make that a part of the playtime prep/foreplay.tell her it really turns your wife onsomething along those lines.

If that does not solve the issue and it is a "natural" body odor this person simply emits even after bathingthere is not much you are going to be able to do about that other than try to mask it with perfumes or body sprays that are tolerable to your wife.and make WONDERFUL GIFTS !! ;) ;)


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Question:

Dear Lounge Advice,
So this one is tough to admit and the mrs knows and is working with me too. I am also going to sound pretty pathetic, but I am going to put it out there anyway. I have always been a competitive guy in sports, life etc. I/we have been in the lifestyle a while and I have move past pretty much all insecurities and love how we connect and the openness both mental and sexually we have. That said, there is one issue that still plagues me/us to this day. The issue is Penis size. I have an average penis in my mind when it comes to the lifestyle, but many single males who succeed in the lifestyle are very large. On the one hand I enjoy seeing my wife with someone who is large, but on the other hand I have the craziest thoughts. Thoughts like, is he stretching her out that wont go back? Is he hitting spots I will never be able to hit having something with her I dont if even physical and so on. Yes I know I he will never make her feel like I do cause she loves me but that answer doesnt seem to work for me. Its the pride that I cant get past. The thought of him giving her "physical" feelings I never will be able too.

PS. believe it or not we really are secure in the lifestyle and have had our fair share of very large men. I am ok somethings but drive her nuts at others when I fall back into this line of thinking and start asking questions.

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

All people have insecurities…sometimes big or sometimes small…no pun intended:-)

It is how you choose to deal with them that matters more than anything else.

Of course guys with larger penis size are going to produce different sensations and go places that an "average" size cock would not normally reach or produce.

You simply have to accept that as a fact beyond your control…but it does not mean that you are lacking anything.

As long as she is not complaining or expressing that she is dissatisfied with you I would suggest that you not worry about this and enjoy watching her experience different pleasures that only certain individuals or toys can provide.

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