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Question: New member!

Dear Lounge Advice,We are in Amsterdam and looking for a good sex show in the red light district. Have been disappointed in the past. Any recommendations?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

You can check out our Club& Events area for leads on Club where you are visiting.

I would also suggest that you post your request in our forum.
We have a lot of members who are "world travelers".

I'm sure someone who lives in or frequently visits
Amsterdam may have some great leads on the fun/cool/sex shows you should check out while you are there.


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Question: Adventurous couple looking to make new friends

Dear Lounge Advice,
my boyfriend and I are just getting into the lifestyle but hes almost obsessed with the search for a couple or a unicorn. How do I reel him back in or can I?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Different people approach things in life in different ways or with a certain amount of enthusiasm….sometimes too little…sometimes too much.

If your guy is going overboard in the search for a couple/female to "swing" with…and it is starting have a negative impact on you…you have to talk to him about your feelings and perhaps agree on some basic rules/guideline to "swing" by.
Sharing feelings and thoughts can be hard or feel scary….but trust me…if you do not express yourself….more damage than good will come from not putting yourself out there.





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Question: Single, game, and ready to laugh and play!

Dear Lounge Advice,
I'm new-I would love to go to parties to ease in and talk to people face to face and find chemistry. How would I find these parties and be accepted. I'm a single female not looking for strings. But open to meet and be available and then..
thanks.

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

There is an EVENTS area on our home page that lists all Events occurring both Nationally( by State) and Internationally.
You can also "customize" the events area to make it easier to locate and keep track of events near your area.

You can also check out the CLUBS link on the top main tool bar or the FORUM/ Travel & Parties topic.





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Question: Looking for some fun!!!!

Dear Lounge Advice,
How do you get a metal cock ring on?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Always ask for and read the general safety directions which should accompany any legitimate sex toys you purchase.

That being said metal cock rings should be applied prior to the erection.
Lube can be used to make the process easier if needed.



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Question: Playful couple seeking sexy, fun female & couples

Dear Lounge Advice,

We are new to this site and the lifestyle. What is your best advice for finding what we want, a bi-sexual or curious female that wants to play with a couple?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hello,

Make sure to include in your profile's descriptive areas, Type of playmates we are interested in areas and Additional Questions…. exactly what you are looking for.

Read the profiles….they usually state if what they are looking for for play.

- Use the SEARCH feature(on the top main tool bar) to set up search parameters for what you are looking for and browse member profiles in your area. You can specifically search for Female Sexual Preference….enter Bi-sexual

-Contact via mail or Wish List the members you find that you are interested in meeting with.
SAY HELLO :-)

-Look at the WHO'S ONLINE area ( Top menu bar)
-Post a Booty Call ( See top main menu)

-Try our CHAT/IM features to contact and meet other members.

GET TO AN EVENT NEAR YOU….this is by far the best way to meet someone in your area.

There are numerous tools and features for your to find other members


Good luck in your search :-)


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Question: Attractive couple looking for erotic fun

Dear Lounge Advice,Our search for single females and couples seems very limited. How do we expand and see more near us ?


Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Our Search feature allows you to customize your search parameters to only look for couples or single females and by your zip code.

In the Search Feature make sure the Gender/Status: is set to Couple or single female

Enter your current zip in the From Zipcode:area

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Question: Looking For Girl Next-Door

Dear Lounge Advice,
I am a really fun sexual guy trying to break into the lifestyle as a single guy. I have been to a few parties and even had a threesome with her best friend with a previous relationship. I was thinking to try to meet a girl on the site to go to parties with, any advice?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hi,

Try using our SEARCH feature or "Welcome Wagon" link(located on our home page) to locate other single females in your area and shoot them an email or wish list them to introduce yourself and your interests:-)




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Question: Looking for FWB's

Dear Lounge Advice,

After years of being blocked, a couple finally told us why they blocked us. The explanation was, well, something they said I did about disinviting them from a party about 9 years ago.

I honestly don't remember treating them or anyone in the manner they said that I did. I feel really bad about any misunderstandings with anyone, and if I truly did something wrong, would like to apologize.

But since we're blocked, and the email I received was so out of bounds in describing something I don't recall I can't apologize or set things right.

It's not like we're ever going to meet these people, but I do not like the thought that someone would consider me rude and snobby, and hurtful.

What say you?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

I would not spend too much time worrying about a minor misunderstanding that occurred 9 years ago.
Life is too short for things like that.

If they still have your account blocked to prevent you from responding or having a conversation with them that tells me they are just "slinging arrows" and not really interested mending differences....pretty petty move on their part.

I would suggest you close that chapter...not worry or doubt yourself for a moment....and move on.

It is their issue to deal with at this point.





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Question: Married couple iso single men for her

Dear Lounge Advice,
Very new to this and this website...my wife and I are interested in meeting some single men to play with her as I observe...we've used sites like Craigslist and Backpage but want something more reliable and safe...how do I use this website to find someone?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Hello & Welcome :-)

-Add photos to your profile ASAP(refreshing your lead photo monthly....it will get you noticed quicker)
Profiles with no photos or really BAD photos rarely get any interest or response.

-Get your account certified REAL !
This is almost a MUST DO on the LIfestylelounge these days
( See Special Features tab on our home page for information on how to get your account certified real)

- Use the SEARCH feature(on the top main tool bar) to set up search parameters for what you are looking for and browse member profiles in your area

-Contact via mail or Wish List the members you find that you are interested in meeting with.
SAY HELLO :-)

-Look at the WHO'S ONLINE area ( Top menu bar)
-Post a Booty Call ( See top main menu)

-Try our CHAT/IM features to contact and meet other members.

There are numerous tools and features for your to find other members


Good luck in your search :-)





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Question:

Dear Lounge Advice,
My significant other and I have been enjoying the lifestyle for about 5 years now. We've had many great experiences and your site has been one of the best sources for the fun connections we've had. Thank you for providing such a wonderful site with some of the best information available anywhere.
I have a concern and need your advice. I feel that we are not connecting as we should be in our relationship. I am concerned that he relies way too much on this and a few other sites like this one, including porn, to chat, get off, and flirt with others. He gets off on it way to much for my liking.
In my opinion, I wish he were more interested in working on our relationship and try harder to connect with me instead of focusing on setting up our next 'date'. I enjoy some fun about once every six months or so. He seems to be consumed with setting up these dates on a daily basis. I get tired of talking about it all the time and it's beginning to be a turn off for me.

He works very hard for many hours a day and we do not have 'one on one' dates much anymore. When we do, it's not really that great because we don't seem to be getting along much any more. I feel terribly neglected, and un loved. I truly feel that he is only with me because we have so much fun in the lifestyle. However, I rarely ever feel close to him. He is very distant, says mean things to me, and really never seems at all interested in 'just me' any more. All our socializing is either 'business' social or 'lifestyle' social. He is 'obsessive compulsive' about everything except me these days and I need advice on how to handle this situation.
During our one on one sex together, he is constantly talking about our experiences in the lifestyle, or future fantasies. I've mentioned that I'd like him to keep those thoughts to himself while I'm enjoying my own fantasy in my head so I can come to orgasm. My fantasy is simply being with a man that wants to be with 'only me' and loves me most of the time. I really don't think he does any more.
I decided to ask you for advice when he brought up the subject of purchasing the LIFETIME subscription to your site just when I'm considering dropping out. I think that would possibly be the end of our relationship.
Thank you for your advice, Island Girl

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

I would highly recommend that you suggest that you both "take a break" from the lifestyle activities until you get this situation worked out between the two of you.


Being active in the lifestyle should ONLY be to "enhance" or "spice up" your relationship with your partner ....it should NOT be the sole focus of your entire relationship with each other.
If the "lifestyle scene" and play time is driving an emotional wedge between the two of you and creating negative feelings within you...it is time to bow out for while and work on each other

If you are starting to harbor ill feelings about the lifestyle and getting together with other people to play....that is not good and will only get worse if you play along with it simply to keep him happy.


The best advice I can give you is to not be afraid to be up front and honest about your feelings you are expressing to me to your partner....and make sure he is listening to what you are saying.

If he values you and your relationship with him more than anything else this should be a "no brainer" for him to work out a break from the Lifestyle with you....and realize he need to focus on you and only you for a while...or maybe forever.

If you say nothing...nothing will change and things will only get worse for you and your situation.

I love this advice someone gave me once and I will share it with you.

"There are 3 C's in life:
CHOICES,CHANCES and CHANGES.
You must make a CHOICE to take a CHANCE or your life will never CHANGE.

Follow your heart, be brave and say & do what is best for you.
If he truly loves you and cares about you...he will always have your back :-)


On a side note-
LL does not offer lifetime memberships as a billing option.







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